|Wedding Day with all our Little People|
Fourteen years of doing life together - day in and day out - has a way of exposing every weakness and highlighting every flaw. There is no "putting your best foot forward" because your spouse sees your best foot, your worst foot, your swollen pregnancy foot, your runner's calloused foot, and everything in between. When you realize there is no place to hide you are forced into intimacy - like it or not.
It took us a while to find our rhythm. Putting two independent minded people together and saying, "submit to each other, love each other and respect each other" can be a recipe for disaster. We fought. We cried. We got flustered. We threw our hands up in the air and said, "I don't know how to do this!" For us, marriage was a big learning curve.
|coming out of the water of my first triathlon ALIVE!|
|We sure do laugh a lot - October 2010|
Through it all, we've been able to laugh. At our circumstances. Sometimes at each other. Definitely with each other. Laughter is truly medicine for the soul.
There's something about walking through trials with someone that strengthens your bond. The times on the mountaintop when life is easy and good are memorable and fun. But the times we've spent in the valleys - relational conflict, sleepless nights, years of changing diapers, financial stress - are the times that draw us closer together. When we come out the other side, our dependence on each other and our faith in God is greater, deeper and stronger.
|backpacking the Mt. Jefferson wilderness|
Carl Lake - July 2011
|Ten year anniversary|
Thank you Jesus for fourteen years of marriage and the gift of a husband perfectly suited for me. I'm confident that fourteen years from now, I'll look back on this post and think, "I thought I loved him then..."